Two sides of the same coin...

The power of conscious and grounded choice hit me while I was trying to figure out the plan for making my dream come true. It was crystal clear to me I wanted to build a professional life aligned to my authentic self, which meant, becoming a full-time coach and creating a business on my own terms, reflecting my core values.

Although my vision was clear, I noticed I was feeling trapped and overwhelmed by the process. The trapped feeling was coming from my mind as I kept making plan after plan, making sure I had plan A, plan B and several others, just in case. Once I felt I had enough plans, I would start building the “to do list” for each of them, and a timeline, and a critical path (in case you still didn’t notice, I have a “J” preference on MBTI).

That would lead to my other feeling: overwhelmed. It is not possible to create a plan for every possibility. It is not even possible to think about all possibilities or imagine how things will unfold. The swinging between “OK, I’m ready to start with THIS” and the “But, what if” questions, was not only exhausting but also unhealthy and prevented me from moving forward.

I couldn’t see what was wrong with my approach. It took me a while to understand what was happening. I was committed to the change from an “operational” standpoint but I was not emotionally committed. Emotional commitment can be scary and overwhelming as it means to be the protagonist of your own choices and decisions, becoming conscious and accountable for them. And one of the decisions to make was to embrace the unknown. I just needed to make my peace with the idea of simply not knowing.

However, it was not only that. I did need to gain clarity and prepare for a long-lasting commitment for my vision to become reality.

My first instinct was to prepare a list of things (here comes “J” again), but this time not a “to do'' one, but a list of those things I was willing to say YES to, what was I committing myself to. And so, amongst others, I said YES to…

• trust myself

• adventure

• show up from my authentic Self

• learning by doing

And once I wrote down all my “YES” I understood there was something missing. I could not say yes to trusting myself if I was seeking validation of my plans, I could not say yes to learning by doing if I would keep seeking for perfection and, how on earth was I saying yes to adventure if I kept waiting to have it “all figured out”?

That was my “aha!” moment”: It was not only about saying yes, but was also about saying no:

• to seeking perfection

• to status quo

• to over adapting

• to seeking validation

Now, for every conscious choice I make, I check what I am saying yes to and what I am saying no to, being aware I am committing to both sides of the same coin.

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